[notifications] add option to notify users

Also, added Data.List.nubBy to limit to only 1 dispatched notification
per ws connection. This should fix a bug whereby a single user got
multiple notifications about the same thing.
4 jobs for dev-add-option-to-notify-users in 42 minutes (queued for 20 minutes and 49 seconds)
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  Cabal
passed #19177
cabal

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  Stack
passed #19178
stack

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  Bench
manual #19179
allowed to fail manual
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  Test
passed #19180
test

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